Just 13 days ago my husband's job was made redundant, totally out-of-the-blue and without any warning. We experienced a lot of negative emotions - we were shocked, upset, disappointed, angry, irritated, gutted, outraged, fuming, scared, frightened, confused... the list goes on. This had totally taken us by surprise. We had, rather ignorantly, assumed his job was a safe one - he is an accountant. We were wrong.
As a wife, my role was clear to me from the minute my husband walked through the front door and told me the news. I had to be the positive one, the strong one, the optimistic one, the encouraging one, the confident one, the 'glass is half full' one. It was bloody hard. At the first opportunity I had away from my husband, I broke down in tears to my father, grateful for someone to tell ME that everything would be alright. That evening, I had my monthly meeting of my local womens business group - I sought advice from our director. She told me how my husband would be feeling - lacking confidence, low self-esteem, mistakenly thinking he had failed his family - and that I had to convince him otherwise. Her comments allowed me to see the situation from my husband's side, and I realised that paying the mortgage was not the most important thing. I was concerned about his health, more concisely, I was concerned about depression, and vowed to do anything I could to protect him. The roles were reversed.
To my husband's credit, he was amazing. Instead of curling up into the foetal position and hiding (for the day at least!) or going for a surf or a bike ride, he was on the phone within hours, calling recruitment agencies and researching both local and Melbourne based businesses. By the following morning, after a very sleepless night by both of us, he was off to Melbourne to meet with a recruitment agency. He certainly wasn't moving slowly!
Within a week, my brilliant, talented, and clever husband had received no less than three fantastic job offers. I can tell you, the change in his confidence and self-esteem was something to see! One of these job offers was outstanding, and he accepted it. After only 6 working days without a job, my amazing husband commenced his new role.
I am so grateful. My husband's worth was proven to him. He became a wanted man. We, his family, know how fantastic he is. But now, not only do the businesses who offered him roles know how talented he is, he knows it too. My husband's demeanour has changed from one extreme to the other in the last couple of weeks, but believe me when I tell you that nothing could wipe the smiles off our faces once he made his decision.
We are so lucky, and we know it. The next time we hear of a company who is slashing hundreds of jobs, these faceless people won't be faceless to us anymore. They could be our family, our friends, our neighbours or the strangers in the street. Being made redundant affects a multitude of people and can bring out the worst in people. In our case, it brought out the best in my husband. He is my superstar.